Monday, May 31, 2021

Remembering Memorial Day


 Memorial Day

A day to remember 
All those who have fallen in battle
Those fallen in military conflicts
Those fallen in battles with racism
Those fallen in battles with sexism
Those fallen in battles with homophobia
Those fallen in battles with transphobia
Those fallen in battles with physical health
Those fallen in battles with mental health
Those fallen in battles for belonging
Those fallen in battles for community
Those fallen in battles for Love
Those fallen in battles that we will never know
Memorial Day
A day to remember
All those who have fallen in battle



Friday, May 28, 2021

Mental Health Tips: Storytelling

 

Since this month is mental health awareness month, this is a continuation of my series on mental health. Today's focus is on various conversations that have been happening around mental health this month.

The Better Together Mental Health Storytelling Summit  included multiple conversations around mental health and storytelling with creators, actors, singers, … focused on how creators can create characters and shows that are more representative and more sensitive of the wide range of mental health struggles people face. A wide range of shows from comedies to drama to classic films are included. (Note the link will send you to a log in screen, in the middle of the page it says "Haven't registered? Click here to sign up" sign up is free and you have access even though the conference is over at this point)

If you have access to Instagram check out the mentalhealthcoalition which for this whole month have been sharing 1 2 1 conversations where two people talk about the mental health struggles they have faced. I watched the one with Chasten Buttigieg which was interesting. There is a whole set of these conversations and I bet they are all cool even though I have not watched them all. 

Individuals Who Have Spoken Up About Mental Health



Wednesday, May 26, 2021

Mental Health Tips: When Struggling


Since this month is mental health awareness month, this is a continuation of my series on mental health. Today's focus is on tips when you are struggling, with tips provided by Futurelearn. After these tips you will find some yoga and mediation practices you can try.

How To Take Care Of Your Mental Health
From Futurelearn

1. Get help when you need it

The first step towards taking care of your mental health is to seek out help when you’re struggling. Whether it’s talking with a loved one or seeking out a medical professional, getting help when it’s needed is an important step. If you’re in urgent need, you can contact the Samaritans in the UK or Mental Health America if you’re in the US.

2. Recognize the signs

Another important way of looking after your mental health is to recognize the signs when something is wrong. Of course, we all have bad days now and then. However, knowing the signs of poor mental health can help you take action when it’s needed.

Learning about some of the symptoms of mental health conditions can help. Similarly, noting down your own feelings and experiences can help you identify when things aren’t quite right.

3. Talk about it

Although it’s not always easy, talking about your feelings can help you maintain good mental health. Not only can it help you deal with and work through your mental burdens, but it can help you feel supported by and connect with others. Talking therapies, such as CBT, are often used to treat issues such as depression and anxiety.

4. Take care of your physical health

The ties between physical and mental health are frequently highlighted, and taking care of one often helps to maintain the other. Many studies have shown that keeping physically active can improve your mental health.

For example, regular exercise can help with sleep, improve your mood, and help you manage stress and anxiety. One study even showed a 26% decrease in odds for becoming depressed for each major increase in objectively measured physical activity.

Make sure that you have some time to get active on a regular basis. Whether it’s a regular walk, cycle, or trip to the gym (if they’re open), even a small amount of exercise can make you feel better.

5. Work on your sleep routine

Again, various studies have detailed the links between sleep and mental health. Those who suffer from mental health conditions may find it impacts their sleep pattern. Similarly, those who struggle with their sleep may be at a greater risk of developing certain mental illnesses.

In our open step on good sleeping habits, you can learn about how to get a better night’s sleep. By doing so, you can help to take care of both your physical and mental wellbeing.

6. Try meditation and mindfulness

There are various techniques that can help you to maintain positive mental health. Two that have been studied in detail (and are closely linked) are the practices of mindfulness and meditation. As well as decreasing stress, these techniques have been proven to improve mental health and wellbeing.

The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) even recommends the practice of mindfulness as a way of managing depression. Research has also indicated a positive impact of meditation in reducing stress, enhancing wellbeing, and even being helpful for treating anxiety, addiction, aggression, and depression.

7. Pay attention to your diet

We all know that our diet impacts our physical health. However, research also shows that there is a link between diet and mental health. Although the relationship is complex, what we eat can affect our brain, both positively and negatively. One study found that there was a trend between a good-quality diet and better mental health in children and adolescents.

You can learn more about nutrition and wellbeing with our free online course, which explores the fundamentals of a healthy diet, as well as how food and disease are linked.

8. Stay connected

Evidence shows that supportive relationships with friends, family and neighbors benefit the mental health of individuals and the population. What’s more, other types of social interaction, such as volunteering, are also known to boost wellbeing. As such, it’s important to stay connected with those around you.

Although it can be difficult to visit people in person at the moment, calls, video chats, and messages can still help you to feel part of a community or social group.

9. Be kind to yourself

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, it can sometimes be challenging to take time out for yourself. However, taking time for self-care can help to reduce feelings of stress and anxiety and lift your mood overall.

If your lockdown mental health hasn’t been the best, make sure that you set aside some time for relaxing activities. Treat yourself to a nice meal, enjoy a warm bath, or do something entirely for your own enjoyment.

10. Learn something new

Learning something new, whether it’s a skill or a hobby, can help to boost your self-confidence and self-esteem, build a sense of purpose, and help you connect with others. If you’re looking for some inspiration, check out our post on how to find a new hobby.

Here is a list of mediation and yoga that you can consider doing when you are struggling








Monday, May 24, 2021

Mental Health Tips: Mental Wellness


Since this month is mental health awareness month, I am starting a series of blog posts on mental health. Today's focus is on mental wellness see if any of these tips from Poppy Jamie could be useful for you. After her tips you will find a list of songs you can dance to right now to put a smile on your face.

5 Tips To Boost Your Mental Health 
From Happy Not Perfect 
By Poppy Jamie

1. Hit Reset on Your Habits: When we consciously decide to wake up to our autopilot patterns, only then can we choose to bend and shift them. List three habits you’ve set-and-forgotten that you would like to reset into better ones. Mine are looking at Instagram first thing in the morning and when I’m bored, saying “I’m sorry” when I have nothing to apologize for, and eating when I’m stressed.

2. Start Micro-Energizing: Right now, are you slumped over, head down, staring at your phone or laptop? If so, you’re more likely to be self-critical and reactive to a threat because our thinking is influenced by our physical bodies and vice versa. Try these micro-energizers to help build healthier thought habits:

Stand up
Do ten jumping jacks
Dance to your favorite song
Stretch your arms over your head

3. Tone Your Vagus Nerve: Belly breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, which controls the parasympathetic nervous system and regulates your heart rate and mood. Researchers in Switzerland have found that a well-toned vagus nerve can reduce inflammation, treat depression and PTSD, and tamp down stress and anxiety. All of these benefits can be accessed just through breathing.

4. Change Your Words, Change Your Narrative: Use language to your advantage and retell your past story in a way that empowers you. This is a very powerful exercise because your brain believes everything you tell it. Replace unhelpful words like “failure,” “screwup,” and “disaster” with the word “unexpected.”

5. Use the Friend POV: Have you noticed that we always know how a friend should handle their situation, but we’re stumped when it comes to our own? When we are talking to ourselves, our emotional brain is activated but when we’re advising a friend, our analytical brain is activated. Practice using the third-party friend voice in aspects of your life you may be struggling with.

If you choose to start micro-energizing here is a list of various songs you can dance to:













Friday, May 21, 2021

Simply Have A Good Weekend

 


Today has been filled with some work projects and a friends short story challenge so today's post is going to be brief and simply a reminder to have a good weekend.

May you have a good weekend

May you rest 

May you connect

May you reflect

May you laugh

May you process

May you have a good weekend

 

Wednesday, May 19, 2021

History, Politics, Sorrow: Sibling Drama

 


History is repeating itself and two siblings are fighting once again, over the home they inherited, over the wide open spaces each needs to thrive, over access to basic human rights. 

The Beginnings 

The family drama is not new and has been going on in various forms for thousands upon thousands of years. Depending on how you look at it the roots of the conflict could be traced all the way back to Ishmael and Isaac and step-families who never quite learned how to respect each other and co-create belonging and community. Both sides have been abused and hurt throughout time over and over and over.

And then one side experienced unspeakable loss, millions upon millions upon million killed simply because others did not approve of their faith. So in 1948 the world decided to give the side who had just lost so much the land that they claimed historically so that they could create a safe space to live their lives. Which seemed only fair after experiencing the unspeakable.

The challenge was this good faith gesture did not take into account the people who were already living on that land. (Though the mess the colonial powers created in the middle east was not that much more messy then other places they meddled, even if it seems to have longer consequences) And so as what should have been a surprise to no one, there was conflict such as with the people forced out of their home in order to give the land over.

The Messy Middle

1949 was Israel's War of Independence. The fighting ended in 1949 with a series of ceasefires, producing armistice lines along Israel's frontiers with neighboring states, and creating the boundaries of what became known as the Gaza Strip (occupied by Egypt) and East Jerusalem and the West Bank (occupied by Jordan). And some recognized this community/this family's country and some did not so the family continued to feel scared and isolated.
 

1967, with the Six Day War left Israel in occupation of the Sinai peninsula, the Gaza Strip, the West Bank, East Jerusalem and most of the Syrian Golan Heights - effectively tripling the size of territory under Israel's control. For those who lived in these areas or who had been forced into these areas when Israel became a state it felt like an unjustified occupation. 


In 1979 Egypt recognized the Jewish state and Israel left Sinai but they remained occupying the Gaza Strip, East Jerusalem and the Golan Heights.



In the early 2000's Israel ended up in a role of semi-occupying, kind of just an awkward mess. Israel has had a de facto border with Gaza since it pulled its troops and settlers out in 2005, but Gaza and the West Bank are considered a single occupied entity by the UN, and the official borders have not yet been determined. The final status and contours of the West Bank, Gaza and East Jerusalem are meant to be decided in negotiations between Israel and the Palestinians living there under Israeli occupation, but decades of on-off talks have so far proved fruitless.


Current Situation (May 2021)
 
And that is what has led to the current conflict between these two siblings. In early May Israel had forces at the al-Aqsa mosque, the third holiest site in Islam keeping Palestinians away during the holy end of Ramadan, in addition a number of Palestinian families in the occupied territories were being evicted from their homes.

And then Hamas gave an ultimatum leave the mosque etc or we will throw weapons at you and then Hamas did. And Israel responded. And it has gone back and forth with many more civilians in Palestine being killed.

Should either be bombing or throwing rockets at their siblings? NO!!!

But neither side is blameless. Being occupied for so long has not helped the Palestinians develop healthy coping mechanism.


When communities do not have their basic human rights and human needs covered they will fight even harder for their families. When one side keeps placing "settlers" into occupied areas in part because they have outgrown their own land they will find that they end up in conflict with those already there. 

In the end both sides need safe spaces to call their own, both sides need access to basic human rights, both sides need to stop killing each other, and both sides need to no longer be occupied or occupiers. 

Monday, May 17, 2021

A Day's Journey (A Flower Fairytale)

 


Step on to this day's path
Check the lights
Move forward Only if purple is seen
Otherwise you might upset
The wise creatures
You pass along the way


Say the proper greeting 
In the proper language
To the guardian of the path
While they might look
A bit frightening
At heart they are kind and caring


Make sure you have 
A song to sing
A joke to tell
Or something sweet
When you come across 
The flower children


If you follow the rules
And follow the path
You might get to see
Hidden Gold
As precious and rare 
As a good tale after a long day