Removing Masks/UnGatekeeping Myself

I am working though the wonderful book "Unmasking Autism" by Dr Devon Price. One line that stood out to me comes from pg. 87

If Autism-friendly resources and adaptations prove helpful to you, that's another key signal you belong in our space, or at the very least have a great deal in common with us

This has made me wrestle with all the ways I have gatekept myself over the years. There are many communities where I have always felt a bit of an outsider or where I did not completely belong/fit within even if on paper that should not have been the case. That I was "Not The Same", that I was "Waving Through a Window" or that I was "Going through the motions."

Typically the spaces I have most felt like I belonged in were fictional in nature such as currently with my adorable band of misfits called The Legends Of Tomorrow or Aziraphale or Crowley or Sherlock or ... all who I typically hang out with in fanfiction universes, fanvid universes, or daydream universes. 

When it has come to non-fictional communities I think on some deep level that I was not aware of I knew that even if on paper I fit I was still seeing the world differently than others which made me doubt if I really belonged or if I was just trespassing in someone else's community. 

And truth be told most communities use too many "ALL of us think/believe/do fill in the blank" language. So when I enjoyed the community but did not think/believe/do fill in the blank I was worried this meant that I was trespassing on someone else's sacred ground.

I knew parts of myself but I did not have the whole picture for who I was so saw any not understanding the social context of the group as really meaning I was not part of the group or at that I should not have been part of the group in the first place.

I have started to personally use an ice cream analogy when thinking about autism traits since many people have noted a spectrum is often imagined as between a binary whereas autism is more a multiverse of experiences.  

While some people always think of vanilla or chocolate when some says ice cream there are so many variations on those themes. I mean which of the following chocolate based ice cream is most "ice cream like" not which you enjoy the most but which counts most as ice cream: 

Chocolate

Rocky Road

Fudge Ripple

Mint Chocolate Chip

Death By Chocolate

 

Many of the groups/communities I have been part of did not and do not always feel like a perfect fit because they only mirror parts of myself. Continuing with the imperfect ice cream metaphor: 

I am Rocky Road Ice Cream and while I have commonalities with the marshmallow community, and the nuts community, and the fudge swirl community, and the more general frozen desserts community (that also includes say frozen yogurt or fruit pops) until I realize that I am Rocky Road Ice Cream I am always going to not know what is expected of me in marshmallow, nut, or general frozen dessert communities. 

So I am trying to learn how to unmask and feel more comfortable not being quite as marshmallow like as others in the marshmallow group while knowing that does not mean I do not contain marshmallow or that I do not belong on a list of foods that contain marshmallow just my marshmallowness is going to be flavored by my rocky roadness. 

And knowing that means I will need to be kept cooler than my fellow marshmallows so I need to learn what supports I need to be able to function such as being kept frozen. I still belong/get to hang out with other marshmallows but you can't leave me in your cabinet like them unless you want a sticky mess. 

I do not have to gatekeep myself and determine that I do not really belong in a group or that I am in a group by some kind of false pretenses. I have to trust if others welcome me they mean it. But I also know that after 3-4 decades this is probably going to be a bit challenging. 

Free Reuse & Recycling In Chicago

This is the final part of a series covering some of the resources and opportunities that are available to those living in Chicago.

Part 1: Free Adult Bike Lessons/Free Bikes 

Part 2: Free Vocational Training In Chicago 

Part 3: Free Tax Help In Chicago

Part 4: Free Senior Resources In Chicago

In Chicago there are a number of  Sustainability Markets, hosted by Reduce Waste Chicago. The Sustainability Market features Reuse & Recycle Pop-Up, as well as retail vendors, artists and exhibitors focused on environmental sustainability. There is a list of 90+ categories of items that they are able to recycle.

Dispose of your household chemicals responsibly and recycle your old computers by dropping them off at the City’s permanent Household Chemicals & Computer Recycling Facility at 1150 N. North Branch Street (two blocks east of the Kennedy Expressway at Division Street).

Free Senior Resources In Chicago

This is part four of a series covering some of the resources and opportunities that are available to those living in Chicago.

Part 1: Free Adult Bike Lessons/Free Bikes 

Part 2: Free Vocational Training In Chicago 

Part 3: Free Tax Help In Chicago

Today is going over some of the resources available to seniors through the city (this is another case I would suggest you call ahead to make sure these programs have not changed since the city is not always the best on keeping their webpages updated.

Benefits and Services

The Chicago Department of Family & Support Services links Chicago residents age 60 and better to more than 70 city, state and federal benefits to which they may be entitled

Use www.Benefits CheckUp.org to determine eligibility for more than 70 city, state and federal benefits to which you may be entitled. These programs include:

• Energy Assistance;
• Financial Assistance;
• Housing;
• Transportation;
• Health;
• Legal; and,
• Many Support Services

Congregate Dining Program (Golden Diners Program)

The Golden Diners Program offers older adults (60 years of age and older) and their spouses of any age, an opportunity to have a healthy, nutritious meal each day while enjoying the company of friends at approximately 50 community sites throughout the City of Chicago.

Home Delivered Meals

This program provides nutritious meals to older persons (60 years and older) who are frail and/or home bound because of illness or incapacitating disability or are otherwise isolated.

Insurance Counseling for Seniors

Volunteer counselors with Senior Health Insurance Program (SHIP)offer free, one-on-one insurance counseling at our Regional Senior Centers.

Care Coordination Unit (CCU's) Referrals

Care Coordination Units (CCUs) serve as central access points for older adults who have intensive long-term care needs. If an older adult has a functional impairment(s) and needs in-home service, home-delivered meals, personal care or other services, he/she could contact the nearest CCU.

A care coordinator will assess the person’s needs, determine eligibility for various programs, develop a plan of care, and arrange for services.

An email request to aging@cityofchicago.org will be forwarded to the DFSS Information & Assistance Unit. A staff member will follow up with the request.

Caregiving Assistance

The Chicago Department of Senior Services offers a variety of programs and services for families who are caring for their older loved ones. We know that your goal as an informal caregiver is to help your loved one maintain as much control over their own lives as possible under the circumstances. Our goal is to help you do that.

Free Tax Help In Chicago

This is part three of a series covering some of the resources and opportunities that are available to those living in Chicago. Part 1: Free Adult Bike Lessons/Free Bikes Part 2: Free Vocational Training In Chicago

While I know this is not tax season I have used the free tax prep people for the last two years and had a good experience so I am including it in this series of Chicago based resources.

The City of Chicago works with its nonprofit partner, Ladder Up, to offer free tax help throughout the tax season and at various points in the off-season.

Free eTAP Tax Services Available (This was for this year so double check next spring to see if any changes)

Do I Qualify?

• Tax Years 2021, 2020, or 2019 only
• Household income under $73,000
• US Citizen or Resident Alien
• No rental income, including Airbnb
• No business loss (expenses exceed your income)

What do I need?

• Computer and/or Smartphone
• Access to internet
• Email address
• Social Security card or ITIN for you and every member of your household
• State ID, Driver’s License, Passport, or any Government-Issued ID
• Income tax documents (for example, W-2s and 1099s).
• Bank account and routing numbers if you want direct deposit of your refund

Free Vocational Training In Chicago

 

This is part two of a series covering some of the resources and opportunities that are available to those living in Chicago. Part 1: Free Adult Bike Lessons/Free Bikes

Today we are looking at some of the vocational opportunities that are available. This is not a program I have first hand knowledge about so I'm going off their website (so if interested please contact them to make sure they have kept their website updated)

Workforce Equity Initiative

City Colleges of Chicago offers a Workforce Equity Initiative to improve employment outcomes across Chicago’s black, unemployed, and underemployed residents. 

City Colleges of Chicago is proud to present a variety of educational opportunities designed to improve employment outcomes across Chicago’s black, unemployed, and underemployed residents. We are offering tuition-free training in high-demand fields to help people in these communities find fulfilling jobs in less than one year.

Eligible students can enroll in any one of the areas of study below and receive supportive services in addition to free tuition and books. Services and program specifics may vary by college but generally include: 

Full tuition coverage throughout the duration of your studies
Job training and skills development
Childcare and transportation assistance
Employability skills (collaboration, communication, problem-solving) development
Job placement assistance

These areas of study/training are funded by the Illinois Community College Board’s Workforce Equity Initiative Grant, which aims to support working African Americans in Illinois.

For more information call 773-COLLEGE.

PROJECT EVOLVE at Olive-Harvey College

Project Evolve offers scholarships for select short-term transportation, distribution, and logistics programs. You could earn a basic certificate and become job-ready in 3 semesters or less! Eligible students from across the city can enjoy free tuition, individualized counseling, and supportive services to help them find a great job in a high-demand or up-and-coming industry. Designed to increase equity among Chicago’s neighborhoods, Project Evolve will provide special consideration to black, African-American, unemployed, and/or underemployed residents of the city’s far southeast side.

PROJECT MPACT at Malcolm X College

Certificates Available:

Basic Nursing Assistant (BNA), Community Health Worker, Emergency Medical Technician (EMT), EMT-Paramedic, Medical Assistant, Medical Billing, Medical Coding, Patient Care, Technician, Personal Fitness Trainer, Pharmacy Technician, Phlebotomy, Physical Therapist Assistant, Practical Nursing, Sterile Processing, Child Development

Wright JobHire at Wilbur Wright College

Wright JobHire allows the college to provide full tuition coverage for qualified students accepted into the following fields of study:   

CNC Machining, Cybersecurity, Networking, Web Development, Criminal Justice, Cannabis Processing Technician, Solar Panel Installation

WEI Scholars at Kennedy-King College

The WEI Scholars program supports students in the following short-term programs:

Automotive (Basic or Advanced Certificate), Commercial Refrigeration (Basic Certificate), Combination Welding (Basic Certificate), Construction Masonry (Basic Certificate), Cyber Security Technology (Advanced Certificate). Construction Carpentry (Basic Certificate), Domestic Refrigeration (Basic Certificate), Heating Basic Certificate (Basic Certificate), HVAC (Basic or Advanced Certificate), Overhead Electrical Line Worker (Advanced Certificate), Plumbing and Fire Protection (Basic Certificate)

Technology Works at Daley College

The Technology Works Scholarship at Richard J. Daley College prepares eligible students for careers in advanced manufacturing by providing them with access to hands-on training and related support services, including tuition, books, and supplies. Students will gain the knowledge and skills they need to succeed in high-demand occupations, such as CNC machining, welding, and factory automation/industrial maintenance.

Free Adult Biking Classes In Chicago

This is part one of a series covering some of the resources and opportunities that are available to those living in Chicago.

This past week I took advantage of some of the programs that the city of Chicago offers to learn to ride a bike. The trainers were super nice and really good at suggesting different methods until you found one that worked. You also were given plenty of time to go at your own pace. While I am not sure if I shall put in the effort to continue I might depending on several other factors.

I got a nice free helmet to keep for participating and as an added bonus taking one of the free bicycle riding classes means I have the possibility of getting a bike through the city. 

(There are a limited amount so I'm not holding my breath but it would be cool to have a bike and make continuing to practice bike riding easier since the location i went to learn was a little over an hour and a half bus ride so not super covenant )

Here is the info on the classes:

The SAFE Ambassadors’ free bicycle-riding classes are two hours long and designed for Chicago residents age 16 or older. Each two-hour class allows pre-registered Chicagoans to learn, based on their experience level, the skills they need to be comfortable riding a bike. This year the SAFE Ambassadors will offer classes in both English and Spanish to better meet the needs of city residents and serve more people.

Beginner Learn to Ride is for those who don’t know how to ride a bike yet, as well as people who learned long ago and would benefit from a refresher course. Classes are taught on a car-free course.

Skill-Builder Learn to Ride is for people who have completed the beginner course and those who already have basic riding experience. These lessons will support development of skills such as signaling, turning and interacting with other people biking or walking. The Skill-Builder class will also provide instruction to help riders interested in preparing to bike on city streets. This class will also be conducted on a car-free course.

Road Ride is the advanced class in which SAFE Ambassadors will ride with students on city streets to help them experience everyday situations and build confidence. Topics covered include how to plan routes to your destination, the different types of bike lanes, and how to position yourself on the street in various traffic situations. The course is designed to help Chicagoans expand their understanding of how to travel by bike all around the city.

Here is the info on getting a free bike

The Chicago Department of Transportation (CDOT) has set an ambitious vision to make cycling a safe and affordable option for more Chicagoans. In addition to connecting bike networks and increasing the number of low stress and protected bike lane miles in the city, 

CDOT will facilitate more residents cycling through a bike distribution program.CDOT will distribute 5,000 bicycles, as well as safety and maintenance equipment, over the course of 4 years to age and income eligible residents. 

For the first year of the program, the bikes will be distributed to participants in 2022 CDOT mobility programming (Green Corps, Learn to Ride, and Open Boulevard Events), and first come first serve for residents that qualify. Depending on demand, the City may implement a lottery for years 2-4 of the program for residents that qualify. Online and paper applications will be accepted July 18th- August 4th. There will be no preference between paper and online applications (they will be ordered by the date submitted or postmarked). 

For qualifying residents, bikes will begin to be distributed in August 2022, and will continue to be distributed each Spring/Summer of the following four years until 5,000 bikes are distributed.

Eligibility

Chicago Residents 14 and older (those under 18 will need a Guardian’s signature on a liability waiver);

AND 

Have a household income at or below 100% of the Area Median Income for Chicago (see chart);

AND

Do not already own a bicycle;

AND

Residents that face higher mobility hardship (see map); OR Participants in CDOT 2022 mobility programming (Green Corps, Learn to Ride and Open Boulevard Events)

Come GISH With Me

I will be once again doing GISH which is a week long event/activity/celebration/change-the-world thing. There are always a range of "tasks" some involving writing, some involving art, some involving being social, some involving puzzles, some involving building things. It does not matter where you live across the globe, if you are unable to leave your home, or if you are the most social bumble bee out there there is a place for you.  

In addition there will be lots of livestreamed panelists including the below giving you a taste of what GISH is like

Some facts:

• This year part of the registration fee is helping relocate medically fragile refugees and disabled refugees in the Ukraine who otherwise could not get out.
• And if the registration fee is too much there are gish-scholarships they want as many people to play as possible
• This year the winning team gets a free trip to the amazon (Ecuador area I am pretty sure)
• This year our mascot is Chillax part chinchilla, part axolotl – but all good vibes!

So come and join me in a week of wildness. It does not matter who you are, you will have a great time. Here is a link to join my team DreamingAcesWild and my referral code is 6890CE in case you need it. https://hunt.gish.com/join_me.php?t=41402

9-8-8 Is Finally Here

 

Starting June 16th 988 is here. 

I have supported the move to 988 for our national suicide and crisis lifeline and have sent various messages to my elected officials to keep it going and to work to give 988 the funding it needs to work. 988 is so important because when someone is in crisis or knows someone in crisis remembering a long phone number is likely the last thing of their minds. (As was shown in this comedic clip from the IT Crowd*)  988 is much easier to remember. 

Here is are some selections from an article on NPR

The new 988 crisis number is about to launch. Here's what to know
July 15, 2022 by RHITU CHATTERJEET

Starting July 16, people in mental health crisis will have a new way to reach out for help. Instead of dialing the current 10-digit National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, they can simply call or text the numbers 9-8-8.

Modeled after 911, the new 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is designed to be a memorable and quick number that connects people who are suicidal or in any other mental health crisis to a trained mental health professional.

Currently, the majority of people experiencing a mental health emergency end up dialing 911.

The problem is that 911 wasn't set up to address mental health needs. Either callers end up in a frenetic emergency room, waiting for hours and sometimes days to get care, or they end up interacting with law enforcement, which can lead to tragedy or trauma.

The goal of the effort behind 988 is to ultimately reduce these kinds of confrontations with law enforcement and connect people in crisis to help right away. It's part of a longer-term effort to ramp up mental emergency response teams around the country.

The 988 lifeline will connect people to the existing network of more than 200 local crisis call centers around the country. (The 10-digit suicide prevention number — 1-800-273-8255 — will remain active, but calls will be routed to 988 once that three-digit number launches.)

People who call or text the number will be connected to a trained counselor at a crisis center closest to them. If a local crisis center is too busy to respond right away, the call gets routed to one of 16 backup centers around the country.

According to the HHS, in 2021 the lifeline received 3.6 million calls, chats and texts. But a 2021 report by SAMHSA found that the current system is able to respond to only 85% of calls, 56% of texts and 30% of chats.

Health officials project that the number of calls, chats and texts will at least double in the first full year after 988 goes live.

To prepare for this rise in demand, the federal government has made significant investments in the network.

More than $400 million — up from $24 million — has gone toward beefing up the capacity of local and backup call centers and providing associated services, including a subnetwork for Spanish speakers, according to a statement from the HHS.

And he's already seeing an impact on the lifeline's ability to respond to those who reach out, he says. For example, he says, "right now we're answering over 90% of our chats. And this time last year it was closer to 20 to 23%."

It will take time for 988 to reach its ultimate goal, advocates say.

"The transition to 988 has come to represent a once-in-a-generation opportunity to revisit and reconceptualize how crisis services are resourced and delivered in communities across the country," says Colleen Carr, director of the National Action Alliance for Suicide Prevention at Education Development Center.

*I am in no way making fun of people in crisis but the clip clearly shows that long phone numbers don't tend to be useful in an emergency

Free Classical Music Available To All

 

This summer has been filled with hearing a lot of classical music here in Chicago. 

The good news is most of this music is streamed online and available from anywhere.

 Here are some weekly concerts you can listen to. 

(Note all times are in central time)

Mondays:

Live from WFMT/ (Streamed on WFMT radio, WFMT website)

Live from WFMT, the station’s full-length recital series, presents weekly music and conversation from October through June Mondays at 8:00 pm. Starting in July, Live from WFMT goes on hiatus. Mondays at 8:00 pm will feature broadcasts from the Ravinia Festival.

Tuesdays:

Rush Hour Concerts  St. James Cathedral (Streamed on their website and YouTube)

The series of 45 minute concerts is held on Tuesday evenings throughout the summer (June-August) at 5:45 p.m.

Wednesdays:

Dame Myra Hess Memorial Concerts (Streamed on WFMT radio, WFMT website, the WFMT YouTube)

This series of 45 min concerts is held year round on Weds at 12:15pm. 

Wednesdays, Fridays, Saturdays:

Grant Park Music Festival has mainly classic music 3x a week during the summer. The Wednesday night concerts often are streamed on (Streamed on WFMT radio, WFMT website, the WFMT YouTube)

Fridays:

Friday Noonday Concerts Fourth Presbyterian Church

This music series is held year-round on Friday at 12:10 can be found on their YouTube (too see past concerts look through their videos for those labeled Friday Noonday Concerts

Celebrities STOP Being TRANSPHOBIC!!!

Currently in the news are several celebrities who have been tweeting transphobic comments. This is not new, celebrities keep doing this again and again. (Sadly I think this post is going to be evergreen content because it will be a while before everyone stops being transphobia)

I think one issue is the fact that individuals who have uteruses are being criminalized in many places such as in the recent supreme court ruling so others do not want to deal with nuance or precision. 

Another issue is there are some individuals who don't comprehend that language has changed over time because the idea that language can change confuses them. 

Now it is fine to say I am not sure what the current language I should be using is in this case. We can both not know what language we should be using and not dismiss the fact that language has been changing.

Case Study: Menstruators/People Who Menstruate. 

While many individuals who are transphobic really struggle with this language Menstruators/People Who Menstruate is a clear example of why such language is important. 

There are a wide range of people who were assigned female at birth who do not menstruate:

• Those who have not reached puberty
• Those with amenorrhea caused by medications such as antipsychotics, cancer chemotherapy, antidepressants, some blood pressure drugs, some allergy medications
• Those on various forms of birth control such as the pill
• Those who are currently pregnant
• Those who have had hysterectomies
• Those who have reached menopause

So if an group was providing menstruation products to individuals who otherwise would not be able to access or afford them these services would not apply to all the above groups. In this case it is clear that saying people who menstruate is the most useful language. 

This is true of a lot of the other language that is now used that seems to upset many individuals to the point they make transphobic comments. Terms such as assigned female at birth, birthing people, people with vaginas, people with uteruses etc. 

Each is referencing a different community of people and while yes there tends to be some overlap between the groups there are individuals in each category who do not fit within each of the other categories.

Now with how quickly language and understandings around gender, sex, sexuality, and other identities changes it is ok if we make a mistake and use the wrong term, (everyone will use the wrong term or an outdated term at some point) the problem is when we double down on using the wrong word and refuse to learn when someone points out our mistake. 

Using language that makes those assigned female at birth, cis-women, trans-women, those who are nonbinary or genderfluid all feel safe is not attack on the term "women" anymore than saying you are from a particular state is an attack on the term "American." 

We can understand if someone uses the term "New Yorker" and would not say "No don't say you are a New Yorker you are only an American." We can also understand there might be cases where a "New Yorker" is not an "American" or an "American Citizen" 

(Such as someone who is from Britain but has worked in NY for decades might consider themselves both British and a New Yorker but not an American) 

So why is saying those who mensurate, assigned female at birth, birthing people, people with vaginas, people with uteruses etc. so much harder to understand as a concept?

Hopes For Impendence From What Is Holding Us Back

 

The last few weeks have been hard for so many of us so the idea of celebrating today might feel like a challenge. One way to handle some of the emotions and feelings that today's holiday might bring up is to expand what type of independence we are seeking. There are many things we can hope to be independent from as a nation, as communities and as individuals.

 

4th of July

A day we celebrate independence

As a nation may we have independence from

Racism, Sexism, Homophobia, Transphobia

Biphobia, Ablism, Ageism, Classism

As communities may we have independence from

Not understanding we are bound up together

Not seeing or hearing each other

As individuals may we have independence from

Isolation, Fear, Want, Loneliness, Self doubt

May we always know that we are loved and we are beloved

My hope is we can use this day to take time to determine what we need to do for ourselves so that we all can be our best, our boldest, our brightest selves and have the energy we need to organize in order to tackle all the injustice and isms and phobias that systematically keep others down. 

My Connection To Benjamin Britten

 

Britten was an English composer, conductor, and pianist. He was a central figure of 20th-century British music, with a range of works including opera, other vocal music, orchestral and chamber pieces. This week the Grant Park Music festival is playing/singing Benjamin Britten's Spring Symphony.

Now I always get a kick out of going to concerts that include Britten's music since I have a historical connection to him. In 1939 he spent time hanging with my dad's side of the family on Long Island and there are a few fun stories to come out of that. 

(The below come from my dad's summary of the family stories so his father is my grandfather, and his grandfather is my great-grandfather etc.) 

In 1939, Benjamin Britten, then a struggling young classical composer, visited the U.S. for several months. In the course of his wanderings, he ended up on Long Island, and took the opportunity to spend some time as the guest of my grandfather, who was very active in the local classical music scene.

He spend a weekend building model airplanes with my father (14 at the time) and working a bit in the store. When it was time to leave, he made the surprising announcement that he was giving up writing music and wanted to go to work for my grandfather full-time.

My grandfather thought he was crazy. He'd already had pieces performed by major orchestras, including the New York Philharmonic.

My grandfather point blank refused to take him up on the offer. "What do you want?" he asked. "Blood?"

Eventually, Britten changed his mind and went back to England to become a major success as a composer of opera music.

Fifty Years Later

In 1992, Humphrey Carpenter was writing a biography of Britten. During the course of writing, he got in contact with my father. They corresponded and Carpenter used photos of my father and grandfather in the book. Then, Carpenter invited my father as a guest to the Alderburgh Music Festival (founded by Britten). By that time, the book (with photos) was already published in England . He was wined and dined at a special reception for patrons of the festival, and people kept coming up to him, saying, "I know you. You're Bobby Rothman." My father was delighted at being a celebrity.

The next day, Carpenter asked my father to come by to answer some questions about Britten for the archives. Carpenter set up a tape recorder, started it, and asked the first question:

"Did you know that Benjamin Britten was in love with you?"

Yes, Britten always had an attraction for teenage boys, and my father was the apple of his eye, so much so that he was willing to give up music just to be with him. At the same time, Britten was extremely discreet about it, and rarely showed anything overt. (Years later, my grandfather could not accept the fact that Britten was gay, despite the fact that Britten had had a long-term relationship with tenor Peter Pears. "Not Ben," he said when someone mentioned the fact.)

Needless to say, this was the first time my father had heard of it. His answer was simple: "Turn off the tape recorder!" He also wasn't too happy about the people recognizing him the night before......

You can find the full story in Carpenter's biography of Britten.

Now I find it super cool that Benjamin Britten had a squish/crush/summer something on my grandpa even if it was unidirectional and nothing much came from it. (And Britten sure was discreet indeed since the only thing that ever happened was a single time when Britten gave my grandpa a peck on the forehead (I think shortly before he went back to England but I might be remembering wrong) but at the time my grandpa just assumed it was a British thing LOL) 

My dad's side of the family ended up hanging with lots of cool people Benjamin Britten and Albert Einstein but that is a story for another day.  

Finally here is some family footage of Britten hanging with my family with the arrangement of the some The trees they grow so high dedicated to my grandpa.

Benjamin Britten Picnicking with the Rothmans circa 1940