Self-Kindness and Self-Reflection

“You treat everyone around you with kindness and respect

Just remember to do the same for yourself, every once in awhile.”

Leo Snart (Flash Season 4 Ep 19 Fury Rogues)

I was watching the last Wentworth ep I had left and in his role as Leo Snart (From Earth x) Wentworth spoke the above wisdom about showing ourselves kindness and respect. 

(I know Wentworth pops up in some form when we get to the the next crossover event but it is my last full Captain Cold ep in the Legendsverse (aka Arrowverse) as far as IMDB tells me)

This is not the first time that Wentworth discussed this as can be seen in the wonderful clip below where he talks about needing to be his own best friend, and how we all need to be our own best friends:

For me self-kindness often comes in the form of being self-reflective. I tend to spend a large amount of my time processing. While mine would be filled with more characters and stories, my mind palace could give Sherlock's a run for his money. 

My tendencies towards self-reflection have come up in some of the pre-program conversations I have been having (I am doing a no cost to me mental wellness program this summer, the perk of going to lots of random talks/discussions/roundtables/webinars you find out about interesting opportunities)

I loved this comment that was shared with me by the leader:

"I will say that everything I thought to share (about how to find a connection to the value) you came to on your own which again highlights your strength in being reflective and self-aware. I hope you continue to feel seen here, as I can relate to struggling with that when being reflective"  

For me one way that I can follow Leo Snart's advice and show myself self-kindness is to be self-reflective and understand what I need from a particular situation. Sometimes I find it easy to be my own friend and sometimes I need to outsource that friendship to others such as my three (Currently Wentworth, Chasten, and Pete.) 

I know they all would be kind to me, and would encourage me to do what ever I need to do but feels like an impossible task at the time. (And it does not hurt to have three people available at anytime I think about it to give me a nice hug :) )

I plan to continue to explore the main themes in the program I am doing each Friday for the summer. So if you would like to follow along keep coming back each Friday this summer.