My Star Word for 2025: Caring

For the last several years a pastor friend of mine has drawn a star word for me. Star words are an alternative to the more traditional New Year's resolutions. As concepts, they are less stressful and are less prone to "all or nothing" thinking than resolutions. In addition, as concepts, they are something you can't do wrong. I find they are a cool addition to the other guiding principles I pick each year for myself.

For this year my friend drew "caring" for me

Which fits well with my other 2025 guiding principles.

2025 Throughlines 

By Dreaming Ace

2025 Throughlines

My star word “Caring” 

My mantra “Gentle, Gentle”

My action plan “Throw Away the Plan”

Bonus guiding principle “Hell, Yes”

2025 Throughlines

To help me map the journey

So that I can thrive not just survive

To help me fulfill the adventure

So that I can thrive not just survive

To help me be rooted in myself

So that I can thrive not just survive

2025 Throughlines 

My star word “Caring” 

My mantra “Gentle, Gentle”

My action plan “Throw Away the Plan”

Bonus guiding principle “Hell, Yes”

 

"Hell, Yes" refers to my traditional last book of the year. A reminder to think about what I actually want to do in any given moment https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/6442749-hell-yes

"Gentle, Gentle" Books: The Boy, the mole, the fox, and the horse

 This year I will be writing about some of the "gentle, gentle" books that I read and enjoy. 

I hope this helps others to find "gentle, gentle", calming, peaceful, and joy filled books to read.

Both my first book of the year and my first "gentle, gentle" book of the year is The Boy, the mole, the fox, and the horse by Charlie Mackesy which was brought to me via a free "Take a book, Leave a book" display.

This story is what taking a nice warm bath or drinking a cup of tea feels like. I also appreciated how the wisdom contained in this story works individually (you can open to any page and enjoy) as well as working collectively (while there is no real plot a journey still appears) 

To fully enjoy it is important to note the story is classified as children's, so it is very comforting but not new concepts. I would recommend this story to anyone who wants to read a calming story about friendship or who wants to read something that feels like a big gentle hug. 

My Goodreads Review:

This was a lovely "gentle, gentle" way to start a new year. I feel like this is the kind of book I will open randomly through out the year because it is the kind of wisdom that is good to read again and again. Thank you, person who left it at the "Take a book, Leave a book" at my local library.

And if like me you don't always know what to look for when you want to read a "gentle, gentle" book since that is not a widely used category:

On StoryGraph it is labeled:  Reflective, Inspiring, Hopeful

Note: This book is beautiful but uses a semi-cursive font. I was able to read it pretty easily despite not typically being able to read cursive like fonts but it still feels like it is important to note if you struggle to read challenging fonts.  

Themes and "TARDIS Goals" for 2025

 

Many of us are thinking about what we want from the upcoming year. Instead of more traditional resolutions, I pick themes. I find themes to be less stressful and easier to keep up all year long.  

This year I am choosing a combo of previous ones that have worked well: 

1. "Gentle, Gentle."* This is a reminder to be gentle with ourselves.  We are enough no matter what big feelings we are feeling or how we are judged by ourselves or others.

2. "Throw Away The Plan."** This one is guaranteed to work for everyone since every time something goes wrong, we are successfully completing our New Year's goal. 

3. "TBD." I am once again having a friend draw me a star word for the year, but it won't be drawn until Sunday, so right now TBD.

In addition, I find that having a daily list helps me be "gentle, gentle" with myself. Without some structure, everything can feel liminal, and I can struggle with decision fatigue. 

My January 2025 daily list includes the categories:

Fitness

Health

Self-love

"TARDIS Goals"

Everything else.

"TARDIS Goals" is a new term I created that refers to the TARDIS, which gets you where you need to be, not necessarily where you want to be. 

I created this term for working on bigger long-term goals. I tend to spend more time on quick tasks that are easy instead of the harder, longer-term tasks. 

This is also a flexible category. I should be working on some of my long-term goals every day, but I don't need to work on all my goals every day. 

No matter if you are choosing resolutions, or themes, or something else entirely for the new year may you find a bit more peace, joy and wonder this year.

* "Gentle Gentle, Slow Slow, Thoughtful Thoughtful, Flow Flow" Wentworth Miller Instagram Post

* "Make the plan, Execute the plan, Expect the plan to go off the rails, Throw away the plan." Leonard Snart from The Flash - Infantino Street

Happy 2025

 Happy 2025 Message

Another New Year is before us

We don’t know what it will bring

What challenges we will face

So we should focus on what matters 

Gentle Gentle, Slow Slow, Thoughtful Thoughtful, Flow Flow (1)

Moments where (we are) doing what (we) need to do 

to make sure that (we) vibrate at the right frequency … 

things that are small, doable, affordable, and that nourish (us). (2)

Gentle Gentle, Slow Slow, Thoughtful Thoughtful, Flow Flow (1)

(We) won’t be doing it alone.

We are all just trying to figure out this being human thing together.

It’s not always going to be easy.

And sometimes (we’ll) feel like the darkness is too much to bear.

But it’s worth fighting the darkness to discover who (we) really are.

And not just for (ourselves).

But so (we) can create a better world for everyone.

Now, (we’re) gonna make some mistakes.

There’s no formula to guide the way.

No destiny to surrender to.

It’s not about being perfect.

It’s about doing what we know is right.

And having a hell of a good time doing it.

That’s what it means to be alive.

And to be a Legend.

Welcome to the team. (3)

Make the plan, Execute the plan,

Expect the plan to go off the rails, 

Throw away the plan. (4)

*quietly confident in the manifold gifts (we) possess, 

both known and unknown to (us)*

Right behind you. 

(We) got this. (5)

1. Wentworth Miller Instagram Summer 2023

2. Wentworth Miller | Full Q&A | Oxford Union Society 

3. DC's Legends of Tomorrow - WVRDR_ERROR_100

4. Leonard Snart from The Flash - Infantino Street

5. Lin- Manuel Miranda Tweets